First off, thank you to the positive responses and feedback to my last post. It was scary to hit publish on it, but the outpouring of love and support made it completely worth sharing. It feels like an awakening, like I can only grow from here on out.

This week has been heavily focused on catching up on work (we had a company off-site last week in Charleston), and while the off-sites are always incredibly productive, I always feel like I have to catch up on the rest of my life when I return home. It was a great start to the new year though, being able to discuss team goals, individual goals, and where we want to be in the future. I came home feeling revitalized and ready to buckle down on what’s important to me.


I feel like my eyes are more open than they’ve ever been before. I feel enlightened after some of the conversations I’ve had recently, the struggles I’ve overcome, and the people I’ve met. I’m incredibly grateful to have met some people who confide in me with their deepest struggles. It gives me perspective that challenges my own way of thinking, and for that I am humbled and honored.


Yesterday was a calm and serene day in Nashville. It felt like spring with the warm, wet air and the birds chirping outside. That feeling and those sounds always bring me comfort that new things are coming. I love sensing the arrival of new seasons. Steve and I went down to Shelby Park at the end of our street to soak up the Tennessee warmth before it rained again.

Parade of Poppies DressLulus

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend ahead.


*I actually started writing most of this post back in July and delayed publishing it due to my own lack of public vulnerability. I hadn’t realized until now how much it was holding me back.*

vulnerabilityVulnerability is something I’ve struggled with since day one.

Brené Brown told me to be more vulnerable. In ‘Daring Greatly’ she insisted I just go for it. To take the plunge and dive right into emotions I may not have explored. In ‘Rising Strong’ she taught me to dust myself off after diving in led to epic failure.

Then I learned that there is no failure in trying. The only failure is no longer doing.

Even after reading about vulnerability, I realized I still wasn’t exploring it myself. I wasn’t letting my guard down. I didn’t want to be judged for what my heart looked like. I didn’t want to let anyone see me past the depth of my skin.

Until recently, I was okay with only my spouse, best friend, and a few family members seeing my vulnerable, messy self. “If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.” Right? I was only allowing the ones I trusted wholeheartedly to see what my soul looked like.

A few weeks ago, my company started a book club. First on the reading docket was “The ONE Thing”, which essentially identifies that behind every successful person is their ONE thing. It continuously begs the question “What’s the ONE Thing you can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?”

We broke the book club up into 4 separate meetings. Every Thursday we’d meet for 1 hour to discuss the chapters we’d just finished reading that week. On meeting #3, we discussed ‘purpose’.

Shit. I couldn’t avoid talking about it anymore. I’d gone 29 years without having to talk about ‘my purpose’, and now I was cornered.

I was sweating bullets. I was looking down while picking at my fingernails. My boss called on me. “Laura, you’ve been quiet this entire meeting. Let’s hear what you have to say. What is your purpose?”

I took a deep breath and looked at the other 6 faces that were staring at me on the Google Hangouts video call. I finished my long inhale, and with my exhale came a stream of tears.

“I don’t know.”

Side note: Answering a question (especially coming from your boss) with “I don’t know” feels pretty freaking detrimental to your confidence level, especially when it comes to something as seemingly simple as ‘what’s your purpose?’

There. I said it.

I had just then realized that I had spent so many years living out what I assumed people thought my purpose was instead of determining for myself what my purpose was. Sharing that information with my team made me feel naked from the inside-out.

I knew from then on that I wanted to stop coasting through life doing what others expected me to do and make something happen.

Which leads me to my main point. I’m currently writing my very first book. For those of you who don’t already know me, I work for an incredible company called Self-Publishing School. We are a virtual, educational online business that teaches aspiring authors how to write, publish, and market their first books. It’s really quite something to be a part of, and I can’t explain how good it feels to have a job that has purpose behind it.

Back in July, I had made the commitment to myself that I would write my first book. It will be about starting a lifestyle blog and the struggles and failures that come along with it.

There were a few reasons that pushed me to make that decision. One, my boss really wanted me to have my own book under my belt in order to create the most valuable, helpful, and productive content for our own students. If I had been through the process myself, I’d have more first-hand experience and could personally help the students we work with. Two, I needed to work on my personal accountability. So often I’ve started new projects that are so fresh and exciting to me, gotten more than halfway done, been able to see the future positive outcome of finishing, and then I set it aside and walk away. I had to make a change and be accountable for my commitments. Three, I have some deep-rooted personal struggles I’m working through when it comes to seeking the approval of others, and more importantly, myself. It’s been 7 months of me dragging my feet to the finish line of my book because I’ve been so afraid of what people will think.

“Who is she to write a book about something she’s not even that great at?” “Does she think she’s better than everyone else?” “She doesn’t know what she’s talking about.” “She’s a failure.”

See, the thing is… the more I think about it, the more I’m afraid of asking myself these things.

WHY am I letting these limiting beliefs define who I am during such a crucial time? It’s time to move on and do what I’ve set out to do. I’m going to write a book.

So this is me, after waiting far too long, admitting my fears of comparison and failure because it’s time I let myself be vulnerable. This is a huge first step in helping me discover my purpose, follow my passion, and stop letting the opinions of myself and others hold me back.


P.S. I want to know if anyone else out there has struggled with vulnerability. Is there anything that’s holding you back? What are we so afraid of?


Happy Wednesday! If you need a cure for the mid-week blues, I’ve got a perfect Afrohead Rum cocktail recipe for you that you can enjoy at your own at-home happy hour. Making cocktails after the workday are sometimes necessary, and rum is my go-to liquor.

I’ve partnered with Afrohead Rums to bring a delicious cocktail recipe that rum lovers will be sure to love.

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Afrohead Rums Hand-Shaken Daiquiri

  • 2 oz. Afrohead Briland 07
  • 1 oz. lime juice
  • 1 oz. simple syrup

Shake and strain all ingredients into chilled coupe. Garnish with thin floating lime wheel.

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afrohead rums
It was around this time last year that I attended an event with my friend Ashley for Afrohead Rums and I immediately fell in love with this brand. It was the Nashville Chapter Launch for the Unscripted Bartender Series at Amari and I got to eat delicious foods and sample different Afrohead cocktails made by local bartenders.
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afrohead rums
afrohead rums

For more Afrohead Rums cocktail recipes, click here. Drink responsibly and enjoy!

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We actually had a weekend where Steve and I were both in Nashville and didn’t have to work, so we enjoyed relaxing, getting stuff done around the house, and grabbing coffee on Sunday morning. It was really cold over the weekend, probably the coldest it’s going to get this winter. We even had some snowfall, which is hilarious in the south. Everyone loses their minds, forgets how to drive, and every business and establishment closes for the entire day because of a small dusting. I get a kick out of it.

The cooler weather here does give me a chance to bust out some outerwear and layers that I wouldn’t otherwise get a chance to wear, so that’s an upside. Yesterday we escaped the bitter cold for some lattes at my favorite Nashville coffee shop, Steadfast in Germantown. nashville winter

nashville winter

I ordered this suede trench coat from Lulus last month and didn’t know if I’d ever get a chance to wear it without sweating, so I’m glad I was able to get some use out of it for the week. It’s super comfortable and more lightweight than I expected. I may be able to get a few more wears out of it when I return from my work trip. I’m also obsessed with these high-waisted black pants. They’re stretchy and are actually high-waisted, they don’t just claim to be.

Black High-Waisted Skinny Jeans– Lulus // Black Fedora Hat– Lulus // Tan Suede Trench Coat– Lulus // Striped Tee- H&M // Necklace- Lee & Birch // Studded Boots– Circus by Sam Edelman

Lee & Birch necklace

I’m heading to Charleston on Wednesday for another work trip and can’t wait to stroll down Rainbow Row and take in all of the charm. I think it’s the most adorable city ever. I’ll be staying in an Airbnb in Isle of Palms and have some evening activities planned downtown, so if you have any recommendations on things I should check out, please let me know!

Have a great week, everyone!